You can't be happy all of the time - You're Right!

I bet those of you who are happy all of the time were interested in what this crazy woman has to say about not being happy all of the time. Here goes...

When I am working with a client or in passing conversation, I will often declare that our primary job on this Earth is to be happy. I get varied responses, lively discussions and negative declarations in the mix. My favorite negative declaration is "but you can't be happy all of the time", to which I reply, "You're right".

In saying that they are right, I am not agreeing with them rather I am simply stating a fact, they are right about not being happy all of the time. I don't believe that, I am just agreeing. Huge difference.

That particular person’s belief system is set up to believe that one cannot be happy all of the time. With that belief as a foundation, they constantly operate with the possibility of unhappiness at any moment, in the forefront of their mind. They are not looking for opportunities to “get” happy but instead they live by default. They allow any random thought to take hold of their consciousness.

There are many ways to deliberately choose happiness throughout your day. I've listed a few examples below. But… first you must become aware of what you are presently thinking. When you catch yourself in a downward spiral of thought, you can deliberately look around you for something that makes you happy or pop a CD in that is loaded with the music that makes your soul want to jump up and dance in the driver’s seat while you are stuck in traffic. You can call a friend who delights you each time they answer the phone. You get the drift.

An additional step is to begin to create your own personal Road to Happiness Tool Box. Take some time out of your day today to make a list of activities that require 1, 3 and 5 minutes or longer (but well worth the time) and create joy in your world.

For instance: I look for hummingbirds when I am walking outdoors, I stop the car and sit in the sun for 5 minutes with my car door open so that I can listen to my personal soundtrack (more on that in a later post), I go to lakes for a few minutes to feed the ducks (keep crackers etc. in your car if you intend to copy this one). All of the above activities take 5 minutes or less out of my day but consistently contribute to my high vibrational frequency and therefore, my happiness.

When you take a few minutes out of your day to deliberately choose what you are thinking, you are steering your mind in the direction of happiness and what you want rather than focusing on what’s wrong. You cannot control those around you or the traffic or the economy but you can control what you think which produces an outcome called worry, dread, anger, happiness, joy, anticipation, gratitude or appreciation to name a few. You choose! Get in the habit of choosing the higher vibration. Your body, mind, Spirit, family, friends and cells will thank you for it.

Five or six days a week, I hear bells playing when I pass by a particular church. I always roll my window down and turn the radio off as I pass so that I can hear the bells. (1 minute of less). Yesterday, I drove into the parking lot, got out of my car, stood directly under the bells, felt the vibration through my body and really listened to the music. (7 minutes) It was no coincidence that Amazing Grace was playing. If I had driven past without stopping, I would have missed Amazing Grace. As I neared the next intersection, the road was closed for a few minutes to allow construction trucks to pass by...would have be in line waiting rather than experiencing a joyful encounter.